I’ve been thinking a lot about this because it’s really what I have been moving towards for a long time. But there isn’t much to glean from in our modern, western world. Growing up, I spent many summers with my family in the rural countryside of Northern Italy. I remember the pace to be different. There was time built in for sitting down to eat a meal that had been freshly prepared which meant that there was time to shop and cook. This was an absolute given. Often the work day completed at a reasonable time so that people were free to enjoy life outside of business. Of course, computers and social media apps were not at all present (dating myself here), for the good and the bad and so eyes on a screen was not to found. I think you’re getting the idea, my point being, how do I not only support myself and my family on the various fronts AND also live a life that has freedom and space so that I do not feel these constructs of patriarchy that I have just followed into for so many years knowing that this has never worked well? What needs to be different? How do I want it to look? Where is my time best spent? What is my vision?Read More
I layed down on the massage table, ready for my treatment. Regularly, with ritual gaze, I found my way to the quiet arms of my dear friend and massage practitioner, Monicka. My mom had died and I really didn’t know what to do. My spirit was still scrolling the heavens, not ready to leave her side, but my body and mind told me it was time to work with the pain and the grief on this plane. And so, often, I showed up to the table to receive massage, compassionate care through the vital organ of the skin. Mostly, I cried while she worked on me. But I would always tell her to keep going, it was part of this process. Her strength and compassion to hold this tender space meant the world to me. I will be grateful forever.
This exchange was/is medicine. Just like the medicine of a mama-bear embrace from a long time friend or the sweet snuggles from our honored pets, loving touch vibrates through the many layers of the skin into the deepest places. These places are the dwellings of tactile sensation and unresolved emotion and an important part of 5 sense therapy, hormonal balance and nervous system support.Read More
I reached into the hearth with my forged iron fork, scooped up a hot coal and placed it on the crushed garnet nest. A selection of resins neatly placed to my right, waiting. I quietly asked “What will it be today? What is needed today? “ With clarity and grace, the vulva shaped Frankinscence offered and I smiled following the lead. The shape really matters for this work… Of course, the shape really matters..
As the air began to fill with the rich invitation of a shift, I sat back and took a breath. My breath reminds me that she’s here to do the work and she knows just what to do. MY work is to stay close, which is no easy task. But Frankinscence helps me and lays out a beautiful blanket that is easy to quiet into. And this is how the dance began, the dance of offering into the sensual body: nourishing myself, calming the nervous system and regulating hormonesRead More
This time of life can be powerful and insightful and full of wise action. A feeling of increased synergy and connection to ourselves and others can be fruitful ground of an inspiring life ahead. In many cultures, women step into the respected role of teacher when bleeding ends, as this energy can be retained and harnessed in a very different way. The collected life stories and understanding make for an important backdrop and maturity to guide and lead generations to come.Read More